Dear younger Self,
I am writing you this letter, knowing full well you probably think that none of it is true. Believe me, I felt the same.
The first thing you should know is all about love. Honestly I thought I would fall in love like you see in movies or read in books. The lyrics you hear in your favorite songs, please don’t believe them. You will become hooked on the idea that if a man falls in love with you, he will do everything in his power to keep you, he will write you 365 letters to prove his love. You know what film that is don’t you? Because you love it so much and wish one day you’ll end up with a love like that. The first man that walks into your life, you will convince yourself that your in love. You will think about the future with this person. But wait, it’s only been a month or two and you split up? How can you possibly go on with your life? Now your heart is broken and your back eating ice cream watching Nicolas Sparks films. Trust me my dear, you need to learn to love yourself before you let anyone else. It will be hard I know, but the more you carry on, the deeper it hurts. You may feel lonely but I promise you, you are just living for that happy ending.
I have learnt the hard way about believing that true love is like the films. However, I am not saying it won’t happen because it will. Just not the way you planned. I fell in love at the most random time, with a person I met once before. Fate has a funny way of showing us the way. It wont be a smooth road, there will be little arguments, but you will both laugh about it the next day. Fairy tales can happen, you just have to make your own. I have defiantly found mine.
You will be expected to go to school, to pass your exams so you can go to college or university. After university you will be expected to walk into your career at around 25 and earn lots of money to buy a nice house and drive a car. If this happens to you, Congratulations! But for most of us, we still don’t really know what we want to do. I am coming up to 22 and I didn’t go to university, just because I never wanted too. Jobs will always come and go, don’t worry about money, that will come and go too. You will have times when you think, you will be stuck in a dead-end job with a low income and no way out. You will slowly begin to realize, everything happens when it is supposed to. You will get the house and the car, just be patient. It’s okay if your friends all have nice cars and are having children, some may even be getting married. Your time will come, I promise.
Never be afraid to be who you are. Be confident even when you don’t feel like. The dimples in your cheek that you hate, someone will love. Don’t worry about your weight, it does not define who you are as a person, never let anybody change you. Don’t wish your life away, you only get one. Stand up for yourself and don’t let anybody walk all over you. Never bow down to a man, they do not own you, you own yourself. Be proud of your flaws, that is where true beauty lies. Know your self worth and values.
Your parents only want what is best for you. They tell you off for a reason. Try to understand and as you grow older you will realize how much they actually love you. Spend as much time as you can with your family, they won’t be here forever. Love them unconditionally like they love you. You will only regret it.
You will be okay, all the stress about little things will make you grow as a person. Never be afraid to take a leap of faith, don’t hold back. Don’t hold grudges, be kind to everyone, you have no idea what they are feeling or dealing with. You will thank me one day.
“Smile at the world and watch the world smile back”
Keep going, I know you can do it.